*this is what Discounting looks like*   FINANCIAL ABUSE

journal July 2013

Visiting the marriage counselor…

Counselor – “Lets establish a said amount for groceries then. How much do have in your pocket right now?”

He- no words

Counselor – “She lives like she is on food stamps”

He -keeps wallet in his pocket

Counselor -” how bout we just say there could be envelopes for her titled “Birthdays, “Groceries”, “Holidays”, “Thanksgiving”, “Christmas”, etc”. So she can plan and not ask”

Him- “She doesn’t contribute financially”

Me – fighting for my thoughts,  “I’m a mom. This is not contributing?”

Counselor – “He’s not going to like this. I suggest we make a list of the money that gets spent, from who and how, and where it comes from. You should give her some of the cash in your wallet now so she can get a coffee ”

I got handed some cash. $40.  two twenties